An update on the future

Great news – there is a regular here who has volunteered to take over {this site}. It’s someone who was on my list, who may have been on your list too. This person has been around for months and is a reasonable voice with some great opinions. She is not/was not a moderator of the forum (since I know some will ask).

I’m happy she stepped forward. I think this person can handle Africa in ways that I cannot right now. She is also excellent at putting small details together, so I anticipate the posts from her being way better than what I could pen.

I want this person to have the best anonymity, so we’ve agreed not to reveal her username since she has used it in other locations. To that end, she will need a new username. That’s where I thought you guys could come in. Please leave the most clever username you’ve got and the one with the most likes by Sunday 9 PM EST will be it!

 

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*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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The Future

Here we are nearing the one year anniversary of {this site} and we have almost two million visitors. That is….amazing. Mind-boggling. Comments hit 1,000+ for most posts, and there are new visitors in every day. That tells me this site is still serving a purpose.

However, I don’t know what role I can take in the next year. My concern is two-fold. I have not had the time to keep up with everything going on here enough to research and put together posts in a timely manner, and I don’t really have the desire to keep going. This person is not going to change. If everything that that has come out in the last two years hasn’t changed her, I am convinced nothing I post on here will change her back into someone who should be leading a Christian mom blog community. Because of this, I have pretty much given up in the last few months, and I think people here have noticed.

I will not shut this site down. I will leave it up with its blog posts and comments, but not post anything new. The Disqus and email information will stay with this site. But starting with the next year of MWOP, I would like to take suggestions and offers for someone who is interested in taking over MWOP at a new location.

We have some dedicated members here who I think would do an excellent job, but I would like to hear from you. If someone opened MWOP2, who would you trust to moderate it? Are there any nominations? Do you have other suggestions?

Regardless, there’s always the wonderful forum two users here have put together.

I apologize in advance if this disappoints anyone. I know I have sucked at my ‘job’ recently, and you deserve better than what I have given you these past couple of months, especially with the new stirrings over Africa. I have thoroughly enjoyed ‘meeting’ most everyone on here, hearing the varying opinions you have, and I would like to hear them now while we try to figure out the future of MWOP.

 

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*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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Hazardous Health

This was sent to me by a forum member, put together by another forum member (I edited it slightly and added a few things). It’s a list of medical events (and other milestones) pulled from Mckmama MckMama’s blog and I thought it was a pretty interesting read when put in one place like this. Thank you for sending this on.

I can think of a few things that are missing – the arm/elbow ER incident in the days (day?) before leaving for Africa and didn’t Big Mac end up in the ER with a busted head recently? I haven’t gone back to find where she mentions these, though.

Anyway, here you go:

K’s birth – 16 days overdue and “high risk”; she had the broken tailbone. She develops a fever while in labor and she said they pumped water back into her uterus. NICU “whisked away” K to clear meconium after he was born and she passed out.

2006 – K had unexplained hives for a year.

September 2006 – C was diagnosed with Grade II Vesico Ureteral Reflux and they declined the “required” meds – he never had more issues with it.

January 2007 – C was losing weight. Four doctor appts. “Meeting of the minds” and bloodwork with abnormal levels (some high, some low). Another appointment decided it was stomach flu.

February 2007 – C gained weight and she realized she had low supply

April 2007 – C had double ear infection

May 2007 – C had pneumonia and ear infection

July 2007 – She had to do the Heimlich on K because he choked at the dinner table

September 2007 – C had to have tests done to see if his kidney reflux was gone…it was. She was also in the hospital with kidney stones, kidney and bladder infection, and getting meds to stop contrax at 35 weeks.

October 2007 – M was born.

Late November, early December 2007 – Takes 5 week old M on an airplane.
December 6-9, 2007 – M ends up in the hospital. Vomiting, cloudy urine, and was “unresponsive.” IV, pain meds, finally urinating.
December 14, 2007 – K and C vomit all over in the McDs playplace.
December 22-25, 2007 – M vomits at McD’s and goes to the hospital. She has: a cold, a “bad case of the stomach flu”, a heart murmur, and “a bad infection in her body (bladder, kidneys).” Requires IV antibiotics. Also? “Those of you who know me might remember Cullen’s kidney and ureter condition we discovered he had when he got very sick at 2 weeks old. It unfortunately seems that Maisie might have been born with the same condition. We will know more as the night and tomorrow morning progress.” She claimed the people at the hospital gave her the “calm mom award of the year.”
December 25, 2007 M is released, awaiting results on kidney condition, waiting to see if she will “require surgery or a waiting regimen.”
December 27, 2007 Kidneys appear okay, heart murmur might just be from being sick. Praying it won’t be heard next time she’s sick.

March 2008 – announces pregnancy. They thought miscarriage at first but everything is ok except for a “complex” “tumor/growth/cyst” (which was her “cyst”)

April 2008 – C had pinkeye, and she rushed K to the doctor…found out he has asthma. A week later C has breathing problems and “might have asthma too,” later found he doesn’t. Also talks about the “complication” on her left ovary is “even more serious” and “may be cancer.” Told her “cervix doesn’t look right.”. Anyway, the cyst on her ovary went from being “very concerning” to “doesn’t look cancerous” to a corpus luteum that is “certainly not cancerous.”

May 2008 – M taken to hospital by ambulance struggling to breathe and pulse 200 with high fever, turns out it was pneumonia. MckMama took a picture of her in the ambulance. Four days later she was back in the ER with suspected intussusceptions, which is when the colon collapses back on itself. Turns out it was a blockage and gas causing her pain.

July 2008 – They find out about S’s heart and also that her cyst is 3 times bigger than it’s biggest (measured 8cm). JM was hospitalized with S and having heart problems of her own as a result of the meds.

August 2008 –She was in the hospital for Cs birthday. Was told the ped cardio had “never seen such a complicated case” and they were trying “risky and experimental” treatment for S.

September 2008 – M had a sore, blistered throat that was not strep (thought ear infection but wasn’t) and K was taken to the ER because part of his fingertip was cut off at preschool. JM also had a “minor surgery” later about a “very suspicious for cancer” thing not related to reproductive health.

October 2008 – Had the biopsy (minor surgery) that “went great” and was “a little less concerned” that it’s cancer. Then she was in the hospital again overnight for her own heart issues resulting from the meds S needed. S was born a short time later with 9/9 apgar scores. They also didn’t take out her ovary because it was simple and not cancerous. The doctor who did her c-section also told her that she was a “good healer” and “honestly you have no scarring.”

December 2008 – While they were out of town for Christmas, S went to the ER because he was “exceedingly sick” with a high heartrate. He went home but then was rushed to the hospital by ambulance red light siren and admitted to the PICU.

March 2009 – S hospitalized with SVT again.
April 2009 – S to Boston for surgery.

June 6, 09 – Said they went to splashpad “a couple times this week”
June 7, 09 – Posted Stellan was having lots of SVT.
June 8, 09 – Went to the Children’s Museum…later posted that S was having high blood pressure.
June 17, 09 – Went to the zoo “a couple days ago” then goes on to talk about S having more SVT.
June 18, 09 – S to ER and admitted to PICU for SVT.
June 21, 09 – S released straight from PICU and they went directly from the hospital to a huge pool party on the way home.

July 18, 09 – MckPicnic
July 19, 09 – S ended the 15 day SVT-free streak
July 22, 09 – Cancelled trip to Blissdom – took Stellan to ER for SVT
July 23, 09 – Stellan in hospital. “Stellan is in trouble.”
July 25, 09 -”We just said goodbye to Stellan.”
July 27 – August 2, 09 -”It’s bad. Our parents and families are on their way.” “Stellan is being airlifted to Boston”, “trying to not think about what happens if it’s too late to go to Boston.” (Misses C’s birthday.)

August 3, 09 Stellan goes home…on new meds, but stable!!
August 5, 09 MckMama, MckDaddy, and three of their children go to California. Stellan stays behind.

September 10 and September 14 she posted pictures from the kids at the park.
September 15, 09 – S was hospitalized with SVT again.

October 17, 09 – K had infection in one ear and S&M each had double ear infection
October 21, 09 – Urgent care…now C had an ear infection and S&M were worse
October 24, 09 – Posted about going to the children’s museum
October 28, 09 – S in PICU with SVT
November 2009 – S went to Boston for ablation that cured his SVT

January 2010 – JM went on the cruise and was bit by something…so she got IV steroids at the ship doctor.

April 2010 – L ultrasound showed what might be a VSD heart defect.

July 2010 – JM in the hospital for nausea, dizziness, etc. and then had Kidney stone problems again and blood in her urine. Also found out she had Gestational Diabetes. She was released and then right back in the hospital…this was the incident where she said: “To make a long (embarrassing) story short, I ended up feeling awful on my way to meet Carrie, throwing up in the car as I drove, pulling over because I felt really dizzy and lightheaded, going inside an eating establishment to find a bite to eat and some more water, and passing out in line as I waited my turn.” Even though later it was realized she actually did go to the wedding…She was transferred to the downtown hospital where she’d deliver L.

August 2010 – She was back in the hospital again with kidney issues and missed Cs birthday AGAIN. L was born a “preemie” and in the special care nursery.

September 2010 – L is healthy, except for an eye infection. She mentioned that she would be in the hospital again for “open abdominal surgery.” Later she says the pregnancy and childbirth related issues will be gone…and hopefully it will be done laparoscopically. Of course, then she has the surgery and of course it “didn’t turn out precisely as we’d hoped.” They inspected it during her c-section and decided it “did not look good at all” but it was too risky to take out because pregnant women have more blood flow. It wasn’t a fluid-filled cyst, supposedly it was a tumor that might be cancerous. They couldn’t do it laparoscopically so they opened her back up at her c-section scar and also took out her left ovary and fallopian tube. She was released the second day after surgery.

October 2010 – She was in the hospital AGAIN. More kidney issues. She also found out no cancer.

January 2011 – She was in the hospital AGAIN for bowel obstruction.

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*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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A Holiday diddly

I’m not nearly as talented as some of the commenters here, but this one….it required very little thought. If you come up with something better, I’ll post it over the holiday week. No religious-based tunes, please.

(*original words not mine)

You’re a mean one, MckMama,
You really are a heel.

You’re as talented as a cactus, you’re as charming as an eel, MckMama,
You’re a bad tax payer with a greasy credit score.

You’re a bad blogger, MckMama,
Your content’s an empty hole.

Your photos are full of chopped off heads, you have blown out whites in your pics, MckMama.

I wouldn’t hire you for a thirty-nine-and-a-half minute shoot.

You’re a foul one, MckMama,
You have blemishes in your perfect life.

You have all the tender sweetness of a seasick cruise sheeple, MckMama.
Given a choice between the two of you, I’d take the seasick sheeple.

You’re a rotter, MckMama,
You’re the queen of sinful sots.

Your header’s a dead tomato splotched with moldy purple spots, MckMama.

You’re a two decker foreclosure and plagiarizing sandwich with repo sauce.

You nauseate me, MckMama,
With a nauseous, super naus.

You’re a crooked, sneaky business owner, and you give crooked advice, MckMama.

Your blog is an appalling dump heap overflowing with the most disgraceful
assortment of rubbish imaginable, mangled up in tangled up knots.

You’re a foul one, MckMama,
You’re a nasty, wasty skunk.

Your heart is full of unwashed socks (literally), your motives are full of gunk, MckMama.

The three words that best describe you are as follows, and I quote:
“Stink, stank, stunk”!

 

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*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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A new post

We’re in need of another new post. Sadly, MckMama has chosen to miss another birthday, this time it was Big Mac’s. Hopefully his father, who’s been the solo parent for nine days now, was able to make it a fantastic birthday for their oldest.

On the up side, there will be no more “5, 4, 3, 2 and under 1″ comments.

 

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*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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Whiplash

So MckMama posts this ridiculously long rant about holding Lachlan on her recent flights. She complained about being judged on her parenting decisions. I mean, really, if she wants to hold her babies and not put them in car seats on planes, who are we to judge? She wrote:

Confession: We usually don’t buy airline seats for our children when they are under age two; instead, we typically opt to have them travel as lap children as allowed by the airlines. Each time I have posted photographs of our little ones flying, like I did with Flurry swaddled up and sleeping on the seat next to me the other day, I understandably get comments reminding me that it is safer for children to fly while restrained in their own seat in a carseat.

She also said this in the comments:

The only problem is she doesn’t know what the hell her parenting decisions are. Just a smidge over six months ago, she posted this:

“Leaving on a Jet Plane”.
May 13, 2010

Carry your carseat to the gate.

I usually bring our own carseats with us when we travel. I used to check them as suitcases, but for our children under 2, I’ve changed my ways. The next time you fly with an infant, try this: Bring your carseat to the gate. It may be a hassle to lug it there, but it will be worth it. Here’s why: Once you get to the gate, ask if there are any open seats on the flight. If there are, request to be moved with the infant on your lap next to that open seat. Then, see if you can bring your carseat onto the plane. If your seat is approved for air travel, you will probably be allowed to. Then, you can put the carseat in the empty seat while you fly, hands free, and your baby has the seat they know and (hopefully) love. Plus, you still won’t have to pay for that baby’s seat!

If there are no seats open on the plane or you aren’t allowed to bring your carseat on, you still haven’t lost. Just ask for a gate check tag for the seat. Leave it at the end of the gate. The guys who put luggage under the plane will come grab it, free of charge, and put it with the rest of the suitcases. Then, they’ll bring it back to you when the plane lands.

There’s also the little matter of Stellan himself appearing in his car seat on Boston flights. It’s getting old trying to keep MckMama’s stories straight.

 

*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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A new video

MckMama put up a new video, “Just a Regular Afternoon.”

In four minutes, we find out her barely 3-year-old, her 4-year-old, and her 5 year-old are outside in the snow without their mother or father watching, her 4-month-old baby is left sitting on a couch without a parent able to reach him if he tumbles (and with marker drawings on his head that his two-year-old brother put there), and her two-year-old sticks his head in a giant plastic bag. Thankfully, he was the only child being tended to at the time.

I’m not big on doubting or demeaning her parenting abilities, but come on. Posting a video like that doesn’t leave much to the imagination.

 

*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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Changes

I’m still here. I’ve read through the comments and I wanted to alleviate any concern that this blog was going to fall to the wayside. I apologize to anyone who finds following both forums difficult – the idea is to provide a secondary place to talk about anything (even about MckMama), to discuss ideas that might be more nit-picky and to chat with other commenters in better depth, especially when things bog down here and Disqus won’t load.

I would love to see commenters continue to bring things they think are important to MWOP if they think it’s something that needs to be posted here. I knew that comments would fall off, and I’m fine with that if it’s a solution that works better for the majority.

I have been quiet more because I was pretty pissed off about this last week. MckMama has what many of her loyal readers would die for – a popular blog with many followers and advertising to support her family. And she cannot stop screwing it up. This woman won’t change.

In case you missed it, MckMama was dropped by the two ad agencies she picked up after being dropped by BlogHer for plagiarism. Readers here emailed her ad agency, as did readers of her blog, in regards to the thrashing she put on homosexuals over the weekend. Ultimately it was their choice to drop her, and I truly doubt they succumbed to the pressure of a handful of tweets and emails. I’m sure they researched and made their own decisions based on her content.

In the end, though, it comes down to the fact that she won’t learn or change. Now she’s down to Google Ads (which pay piddly amounts) and a few ad blocks from her own advertising efforts. Anyone can put Google Ads on their site, and they don’t pay well.

Relationships between MckMama and companies have been severed continuously since May. She is a skid mark for Christians, bloggers, and mothers of many, among other groups.

What else does she have to lose? What else can she lose?

I see now that there’s zero chance she’ll revive herself and become someone her readers can admire or enjoy once again. I feel sorry for her family, and for her.

 

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*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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Trying something new

We’re only at 775 comments and things are slowing down because of Disqus. Sadly, Disqus is necessary in order to keep up with comments. Several commenters have suggested over the past few months that we try a different forum and I agree it’s probably a good idea.

I’m not up for such a task, but two regulars here, Pink and aliensintheattic, set up something new – a forum.

Please visit this new forum and see if it might be a good fit for when things bog down here, or for discussing something off topic with other MWOP readers.

Thanks to both ladies for volunteering their time and efforts in this new community.

http://www.mwoptalk.com

 

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*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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Is hypocrisy a sin?

{this site}’s base rules from day one state, “We are not a blog about religion, please do not comment or assume that we are all Christians.” However, MckMama has opened one heck of a can of worms this week when she decided to parade her thoughts on sin and homosexuality on her blog, Facebook and Twitter pages. Oh, and Blog Frog. I don’t want to start a debate here on whether or not homosexuality is a sin and inborn.

I do have to ask, Bitch, please. Who do you think you are?

MckMama has not stated exactly what religion she follows, other than she’s “spiritual but not religious,” but I believe her current church has Baptist roots.

That in mind, there are some religions out there that believe in the Seven Deadly Sins. Heard of those? These are considered the Bad Boys of the Catholic church. While the Baptist church believes all sins (and there’s lots) separate a follower from God and all sins are punishable, I thought it would be an interesting exercise to whittle the list down to a select, well-known few, and see where MckMama stands against these Bad Boys.

Sins (from http://whitestonejournal.com/index.php/seven-deadly-sins)

Pride: Seeing ourselves as we are and not comparing ourselves to others is humility. Pride and vanity are competitive. If someone else’s pride really bothers you, you have a lot of pride.

Avarice/Greed: This is about more than money. Generosity means letting others get the credit or praise. It is giving without having expectations of the other person. Greed wants to get its “fair share” or a bit more.

Envy: “Love is patient, love is kind…” Love actively seeks the good of others for their sake. Envy resents the good others receive or even might receive. Envy is almost indistinguishable from pride at times.

Wrath/Anger: Kindness means taking the tender approach, with patience and compassion. Anger is often our first reaction to the problems of others. Impatience with the faults of others is related to this.

Lust: Self control and self mastery prevent pleasure from killing the soul by suffocation. Legitimate pleasures are controlled in the same way an athlete’s muscles are: for maximum efficiency without damage. Lust is the self-destructive drive for pleasure out of proportion to its worth. Sex, power, or image can be used well, but they tend to go out of control.

Gluttony: Temperance accepts the natural limits of pleasures and preserves this natural balance. This does not pertain only to food, but to entertainment and other legitimate goods, and even the company of others.

Sloth: Zeal is the energetic response of the heart to God’s commands. The other sins work together to deaden the spiritual senses so we first become slow to respond to God and then drift completely into the sleep of complacency.

And from Proverbs 6:16-19 (New International Version):

16 There are six things the LORD hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17 haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
19 a false witness who pours out lies
and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.

Based on the descriptions above and what you might know of these sins, how many strikes are there against MckMama? And how can she, if she is Baptist and all sins are equal, even fathom preaching about what she thinks of other “sinners”?

 

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*Originally posted by the blog that no longer exists. All words and content are from the original blog.

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